Apr 27, 2010
1. Principles are principles.. ..getting rid of distractions is a principle... does that mean that you must get rid of your lego's...no, but mabey if it is a distraction in your home. Work is a principle..does that mean that you must work from 8-12 as she suggests...no, but mabey if you find that helps your home to run smoothly and your kids learn some skills. I have found that principles should be applied....how they should be applied should most definately vary between families. But that does not mean that they should be ignored or rejected just becase someone elses "picture" of the principles is different from what we would choose.
2. Sometimes our arguements are just excuses for not doing something hard that we should be doing....I have heard many arguments against headgates that are similar to ones that I have heard when people ask about homeschooling. ...that works for your family, but could never work for mine....But what about socialization? . (ever asked that one :) ).... If you don't expose your child to the world how will they survive in the world....but my child would never just pick up a book and study, I could never do it..I'm just not ____ enough. I chuckle when people tell me these kind of excuses because I have moved past that point...I know that it could work for their family, that socialization has it's place and time, and that the world is good and bad and that good and bad are a part of a family just as much as they are a part of the world, and that yes, they will eventually pick up a book and read it, and that none of us are enough but we can become enough. And yet some of the excuses I have heard regarding headgates are the same...which leads me to believe that when approaching a new idea we sometimes react the same way...It wouldn't work at my house, I can't take their distractions away because of.____ and _____ and ______....., limit friends, limit toys, limit distractions? ??? ridiculous.. .they are children after all. I don't have enough work to keep us busy for that long...That is just crazy, we aren't living in the dark ages here (all of these are arguments I have heard over the past month regarding the headgates article.) For me when I feel defensive towards something... homeschooling, children, spouce, life, etc...it is usually because I am resisting the need to change and once I get past myself then I can see the truth hiding behind my arguments.
3. Application ! and ? I attended Keri's class at the forum. When I came home and was discussing it with a friend I told her that I had one concern...and that concern was that people would take her "picture"... (headgates) , and that they would take it as "doctrine"-- as the way it has to look and not as principles.. .not as these are things I need to do in my home...be a better wife, be a better housekeeper, take back my roles that I've given away, be a better example of a scholar, be a better organizer and purger, be choosy about environment and circumstances, be more involved in what my children are choosing, etc. But that they would take it as...if I get up and have a devotional and then work their little bums off until 12 and then have reading time and then do whatever they want until 4 but I don't know what they'll do because I took all the toys away ...THEN I'll get scholars.... .without joy and fun and bonding and teaching and mentoring and love. This "picture" would be wrong....for anyone! Because being a mother and a wife is about nurturing and loving and giving and service and joy as much as it is about getting rid of distractions and letting them stretch themselves and withholding things until they are ready, and working together. I don't know Keri, but I am sure from what she is accomplishing in her own home and with others who do know her that she also is joyful and fun and loves her children, and mentors her children. Her "picture" is not headgates, that is just a piece of her "picture" of what happens at her home. It is a picture that has been a blessing to her family that she wants to share with others. So I have taken my own "picture" and tried to tweek it a little more to look like her "picture" which I do when I read Charlotte Mason, or John Holt, or the Home Companion. I take my picture and I change it and make it a little better. I want to create the most beautiful picture that I can create.
We all have our own unique talents and abilities and personalities and so do our children and yet we don't throw the baby out with the bath water just because both are dirty. And we don't keep the bath water and drink it just because it is water. We choose. We look at our life, at the principles before us, and to God and then we choose. I may choose to drink the bath water, someone else may throw out the baby. They both may be the right choice.
The truth hurts, but it also sets us free. It has been very painful at our house the past few weeks but I have also felt so free...free from stuff, free from cares, free from weakness.
By their fruits ye shall know them....I have seen good fruits this past week at my house. Dude, my lol son who has never read a book more than 30 page in is whole life has read two books this past week and narrated to me what he learned and what he liked and what he thought was silly about the story...and how he learned you can't always trust a friend/ Both books were classics over 150 pages I didn't suggest he tell me about them, one I didn't even realize he had read.
Chipper my core son has been bored every day this week and I just keep saying I'm sure you'll think of something each time he asks me what there is to do....he eventually finds something. Today I found him in the backyard saying a prayer....can' t beat that!
Moo, my lol daughter is still in bed right now reading her tired eyes out because she can't put down Prince Caspian...and it isn't because she wan'ts to watch the movie like it used to be, it's because she loves the story and can't wait to see what happens next.
And Chip, my core daughter has given me about 50 hugs this week because her mommy has extra time to tell her I love you and twinkle in her general direction because her mommy is not so worried about making sure to get her study time in...I have time now, it is because her mommy is not so worried about the house being clean...it gets cleaned EVERY day...and what I didn't do today I KNOW they'll be time for tomorrow.
My "picture" still isn't perfect even though I've used headgates to tweek the schedule.... that's because I'm not a perfect wife or mother or housekeeper, or friend, or daughter, BUT...I'm becoming one..slowly, just like my children who are slowly becoming the people that they should become someday.
These were just some things that I have observed over the past few weeks and I hoped to give voice to the good and bad that I have found as I have studied how to do this wonderful thing called Womanhood :)
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When I saw that I could have a different type of family that other people had I decided that I would home school.
When I saw that what I was eating was not healthy for me or my family...for our brains or our bodies I decided that we would change the way we eat...no plastics, no preservatives, less meat, no processed food.
When I saw that I needed to stand up for what was right even in the face of opposition I went to my caucus meeting, gave a speech, got elected, visited in my living room with many politicians without makeup on and in my sweats and told them my concerns.
When I saw that my daughter wanted to be in a play I tried out as well and now I have a lead part where I have to sing in front of hundreds of people....I am not that good of a singer!
When I saw that I could get rid of all my toys and teach my children to work I changed my whole life style around...including throwing all the toys away as well as all the "learning" requirements I placed on my children.
I think that sometimes in our society we see a problem and we complain about it, or we blame it on someone else, or we ignore the problem instead of looking at the problem, trying to understand how we are a part of the problem, and them deciding on something to DO to work on fixing the problem (although I do pick "weird" things to Do :) )
I guess my "weird-ness" will continue. Onward, ever onward.
Apr 12, 2010
That morning as I was finishing my morning prayers the spirit whispered that I should probably prepare a few words to say incase I had to give a speech. My bishop nominated me and so I did give a speech. A few, very few really, have asked me to write it down and send it to them so here it is.
I have lots of things that I can think of to say tonight, but I'd like to tell you some of the things that I love about America, and I would like to take them from the pledge of allegience. I love living in a country that is Under God. A country where I can choose to worship how when and why I choose and that my neighbor who is of a different faith than I am can choose to worship how when and why he chooses. I love living in a country that believes in Liberty; that allows groups like this one where we are free to gather, free to express our opinions. I am glad to live in a country where we have the liberty and freedom to get an education and to persue employment. And I am glad to live in a country that believes in Justice for all...for men and women, for rich and poor, for old and young. A country that believes that all men are created equal under God.
But I am concerned, it is the reason why I am hear tonight. I am concerned by the things I see happening in our country. I am concerned when I recently attended a City Council Meeting and found the city council refusing to listen to the people...asking them for permission to have chickens. I am concerned when I see myself and others loosing the freedom to do things on their own property. I am concerned when I see Public Servants who have forgotten that they are just that...public servants instead of serving their own interest. I am concerned when Public Servants do things for profit, for politics, or for personal reasons.
I would like to represent Legistlative District __ and you in seeking justice and liberty for all under God. Thank You
It really wasn't that great of a speech, but I was passionate :) and I did believe all the things I said. But boy, was I nervous :)
Apr 11, 2010
Apr 4, 2010
Spring is in full life at our home this week. We have five little baby goats running around the backyard and two fiesty mama goats being especially protective of them and we have six anxious humans checking on them every two hours to make sure everyone is awake and happy and eating. It is a beautiful thing.
We didn't "do easter" this year...no chocolate, no egg hiding, no easter egg hunts, no stuffed bunnies, no easter baskets, no new church clothes (although we may shop the sales for these :) )
We woke up, had egg on bread for breakfast, watched conference and listened to the beautiful talks about the Savior. It was a beautiful blessing from the Lord to have cute little fuzzy goats as "real" easter presents to teach us about caring and beauty and life.
It is beautiful how everything about spring points to Jesus Christ...birth, hope, joy, peace, growth, caring, resurrection, Life!